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Los Angeles, California 90077-3134
Contact: Robert A. Ringler
Phone: 310/475-5978, 800/233-4888
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You probably wouldn’t expect a man who started out doing brain research to end up being one of the most popular officiants in Southern California, but that’s exactly what happened to Robert A. Ringler. His journey from scientist/educator/dean to nondenominational officiant has been an interesting one, spanning 20 years. In fact, he’s even made it onto the big screen as the minister in the 2009 comedy The Hangover!
Although we take interfaith marriages and personalized ceremonies for granted today, they were virtually unheard of when Robert embarked on his wedding career. Yet even from his first ceremony he was very progressive, helping two of his grad students write their own vows, and marrying them while they rock climbed. His refreshingly unorthodox approach to weddings was the beginning of a trend—to create ceremonies that reflect the backgrounds, interests and sentiments of the couple. “I have a perspective that’s not tied to any direction or faith,” Robert explains. “The couples I work with help give me my direction.”
Robert is a firm believer in the process of self- discovery. “I don’t preach to anyone,” he says firmly. “I give each couple ownership of their ceremony, and let them find their own spiritual, intellectual and emotional issues.” He also has compassion for and understanding of different cultures, and he encourages people to bring their respective heritages into their ceremony.
Robert has married over 6,000 couples in the last 20 years, and has developed possibly the world’s largest library of copyrighted ceremonies. After he’s met with a couple and has an idea of what they want to do, he selects a few ceremonies from his vast collection that he feels will relate to them. “Each couple that I work with receives the gift of wisdom from the couples that preceded them,” he says. “My library is organic—each new ceremony contributes to it, becomes a part of the family of ceremonies. Every couple helps reshape the notion of a wedding ceremony. There are no rules: I give them permission to do whatever they want; I’m their facilitator, but the final product is theirs.”
Because he’s so flexible, working with Robert is a breath of fresh air. “I tell my couples that I don’t have a ‘one ceremony fits all’ and I don’t do anything boring.” What he does do is as much or as little as they want. They can use an existing ceremony or start from scratch. They’re free to include poetry, singing, favorite customs or even have their friends read special passages. When Robert officiates, he strives to capture the essence of each ceremony and convey it to the couple and their guests in a way that touches them. “My participation is so much more than just reciting words,” he says. “I try to give the bride and groom a sense of community along with my support, friendship and resources.”
Professionals in the industry enjoy watching Robert “at work.” A coordinator who’s witnessed many a Robert A. Ringler wedding says, “He doesn’t do cookie-cutter ceremonies—every one is different. It’s wonderful to see a guy who’s so spontaneous, who reacts to what’s unfolding in the moment.” After 20 years of performing weddings, over 90% of Robert’s couples are still married. Now it could be just a coincidence, but there is a possibility that if he pronounces you husband and wife, you’ll have marital luck down the road.
Note that marriage licenses are available on request.
- Los Angeles
- San Fernando Valley
- San Gabriel Valley / Pasadena
- Santa Clarita Valley
- South Bay L.A. / Long Beach
- And other areas by special arrangement.
“Thank you so much for taking part in our wedding. You did a magnificent job officiating and injecting love and humor into the ceremony. So many people came up to us and told us how much they absolutely loved the ceremony and that you had a lot to do with it. Thank you! You helped make it an unforgettable day!”—Jennifer and Byron
“Thank you so much for the beautiful and touching ceremony. We were so fortunate to have your wit and wisdom to guide us!”—Ceo and Leslie
“Steve and I wanted to thank you for doing a wonderful job! We got many many compliments both on your performance as well as the ceremony itself. Thanks for working with us and understanding that the ceremony had to be tailored for us and exactly what we wanted. You were wonderful to work with!” —Marcie and Steve
“Thank you for the wonderful ceremony you performed at our wedding. Both David and I were very lucky that you were able to stay and join us for our reception also. We are very happy to say that many of the guests (including our parents) commented on how lovely and personal the ceremony was and how well it was delivered by you. We would highly recommend you to others looking for a special celebrant for their big day.” —David and Angela
“I wanted to thank you for what you told me when we were preparing the wedding. You saw how troubled I was due to the fact I had been married before. You said, ‘there is no reason in the world to stay in a bad situation—you deserve to be happy.’ At that time, it released me from the guilt and the shame I felt. Thank you so much for what you told me before the wedding, what you said during the ceremony, and for the love you brought into our family. I keep the text you wrote in our wedding album and like to read it from time to time.” —Kildine and Loïc
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