Will You or Won’t You?
Posted by Julia on Oct 17, 2008. Filed under Invitations, Wedding Registries and Gifts
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Hey, brides to be: While you’re adding our invitation designers to your MyGuide Favorites List, you might also have one of the most controversial wedding etiquette issues on your mind. When you send your wedding invitations, will you also be including a list of the stores where you’re registered for gifts?
I got to thinking about this, and started wondering what my own approach would be when I saw this question posed on the Sugar Network’s wedding site, IDoSugar.com. I know that planning your wedding is extremely hectic and you just want to get some things checked off on your to-do list, but there are ways to spread the registry word with a little more decorum.
So, California brides, how are you planning on getting your gift registry information info to your guests—with the invite or not?
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Exactly. There’s no way my family would be okay with me attaching my registry to the invitation. But that’s just me. I’d love to know what other people think…
While it IS the bride’s day, her guests should be treated with respect and gratitude. Putting this information in the invitation is unnecessary when most guests either find something personal or ask around for the info. Too many brides are too concerned with the wrong details.
And yea, my fam would be horrified too. And they have their share of tacky moments…
One great way of keeping guests up to date on all details surrounding the wedding is to have a wedding website. There are many places that offer free wedding websites. Most are basic and offer a few layouts but if you want something more detailed or customized you usually pay a fee for upgrades. Here are two examples, Momentville, http://www.momentville.com/. Nearlyweds website, http://www.nearlyweds.com offers wedding website themes that match a few stationary companies wedding invitations like Wedding Paper Divas, http://www.herecomestheguide.com/service/detail/wedding-paper-divas. The wedding website is a great place to let your guests know where you are registered, what hotel blocks you have, pre-wedding event information, etc. I have seen many couples put the wedding website on their Save The Date cards. You can let guests know that you will continue to modify the website with all the up-to-date info about the big day so they are sure to check back. Another place to put your registry information is on your bridal shower invitations.
one of the problems that I am encountering is the wedding invitation etiquette. I have been searching the net for some etiquette observed in a DVD invitation but I am forced to use all the etiquette from a standard invitation. I got the DVD invitation idea from Silver Screen Invites and I really love their DVD invitations. They have a customization on the DVD invitations too.
I disagree with all of you. I think it’s perfectly acceptable—and even a courtesy—to include a “registered at” tags in wedding invitations. I HATE receiving invites without this information. Guests are going to bring a gift; quit feigning modesty. This information is almost as essential as the date and time so why would I inconvenience my guests by leaving out that information? Especially for older guests who don’t access the oh-so-popular wedding web sites.
I think its ok if you want to put it on there. But if you dont you should include a number where they can contact someone. Even if your not doing an RSVP there should be a number or email for such questions.
I have invitations to give out for three sample sale websites. These sites offer sample sales for some of the hottest brand names at seriously deep discounts. Designer purses, clothing, shoes, jewelry.
An invitation is just that, its an invitation to a wedding- not an invitation to bring a gift. Yes, its true most if not all guests will send a gift, however the gift is a gesture not a requirement.
WeddingChannel.com makes it SUPER easy to find registries. Elderly people ask younger people to look online for them, and if you make sure you Mother, Father, and some close Aunts and friends know where you are registered…everyone will be able to figure it out easily.
And lets be real here- most new couples need CASH more than any of the gifts on their registry, so when in doubt, just give them cash or a gift card to a store like Macys, BBB or Crate and Barrel where they can get all kinds of items from kitchen to bed linens.
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I think it’s tacky to put your registry information in the invitation. All potential wedding guests should be able to find a way to get the registry info on their own. A phone call or even a text message to the bride’s family doesn’t take long!
While I know it’s becoming more accepted, I just think putting the registry info in the invitation says, “hey, come to my wedding…but don’t forget to buy me something!”