Paper and ink were my first loves. One of my favorite haunts when I was growing up was the local stationery store. I even worked for a commercial printer for some time as an adult, and I pored over the latest wedding invitation catalogs whenever I had the chance. I guess it figures that when it came time to choose my own invitations, nothing seemed right—even though I had 5 catalogs at my disposal!
As a lover of all things professionally printed, imagine my delight when my husband and I had a chance to visit the Hyegraph showroom in San Francisco. They have over 250 catalogs with literally thousands of styles. Proprietor Jacques Oskanian showed us samples of some of the designs, with prices ranging from less than one dollar to as much as $250 per invitation! I had to see this $250 invite in person: a humidor with 12 quality cigars, with the invitation and RSVP card fastened to the inside of the lid with a gold ribbon. Other unique options included bottles of wine or water with the invitation inscribed on the label.
Once you’ve chosen what goes in the envelope, don’t forget what goes on the outside: the addresses! Hyegraph’s digital calligraphy service is a cost-effective alternative to hiring a calligrapher. The digitally produced addresses have a much more “hand drawn” feel than those done by a typical laser printer—better than addressing 300 invitations in your usual chicken scratch handwriting, right?
A good friend of mine recently went to Mexico to begin the planning process for her daughter’s destination wedding. While she was there, she heard a fantastic story I just had to share.
At a recent wedding in San Pancho, Mexico, guests were gathered, awaiting the ceremony. A mariachi band was playing in traditional Mexican style. When the bride appeared, the musicians changed their tune with with fanfare. But instead of ‘Here Comes The Bride,’ the band unexpectedly began to play ‘Happy Birthday!’
Obviously, the couple had some communication problems with their entertainment company. Luckily, the bride was a good sport and marched down the aisle to a very unusual processional! She’ll have a great story to tell for years to come.
The take-home lesson? Unless you like surprises, make sure that what you want for your wedding is clearly communicated—especially when there are language barriers! Even better, get everything in writing and have the contract translated by a trusted source.
In this day and age, why should a woman wait for a man to propose? If you don’t think your guy will feel threatened by you popping this all-important question (and why would he?), then plan your approach, pick your moment, and gather your courage. I know one brave woman who recently did just that.
At the Montclair Women’s Cultural Center wedding I attended a few months ago in Oakland, my friend Janelle caught the bouquet. Could that mischevious look in Janelle’s eye be a forewarning of her intentions? I think so!
She and her boyfriend Dave went to San Clemente for Dave’s birthday weekend. After a romantic meal at Fisherman’s Restaurant, they started walking back to the hotel together. As Janelle said, “In the quiet night, I tried to articulate my feelings for him and handed him the ring, tied with a little black velvet bow. I had tears in my eyes as I stepped back and I unconsciously covered my mouth, waiting for his answer. Then he started crying as well. Now we are engaged.”
If you decide to take matters in your own hands, let us know how it goes!