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Do Yourself a Favor

Before I begin my list of favorite wedding favor ideas from past events, let me tell you this: I have it on good authority that if you choose not to have favors at your wedding, your marriage will still be legal and binding. So if favors are not your cup of tea, give yourself permission to leave them out of your wedding.

However, if you’re like me and are one of those brides who’s looking forward to sharing a little trinket with your guests, here are a few ideas to personalize your wedding favors:

1. Lemon Drop Love: Marianne and her future husband met over a lemon drop obsession when they worked at a trash collection service. They both frequently purchased the candies out of the break room vending machines, so they began meeting there and, eventually, love bloomed. Their wedding favors were lemon drops in little dump trucks. The best man told the lemon drop love story in his toast, and everyone had fun competing in dump truck races on the dance floor.

Monogram Heart Cookie from Beau-Coup2. Homemade Treats: You can’t go wrong with homemade goodies. Roseann’s mom makes the best snicker doodle cookies in the whole wide world. That’s a fact. For Roseann’s wedding, her mom placed homemade snicker doodles in pretty cello bags tied with French ribbon. The card read “From our family to yours, thank you for making our day the sweetest ever!”

For my own wedding, we filled half-pound candy boxes with homemade truffles. The boxes were engraved with a statement that said, “the sweetest things in life are those you share with the ones you love. Thank you for sharing our day, Kathy and Marv.” Before we even made it home, Marv and I had 15 phone messages from guests saying they ate their box of chocolates on the way home from the reception (that was a half pound per person—not family!) By the end of the next week, we’d heard from everyone who attended our wedding that the chocolates were gone!

Arc Style Photo Frame from Beau-Coup
3. Photo Op: Christine and Bob framed their place setting cards in these beautiful little frames that doubled as their favors. During the event, their photographer took a picture of each and every guest with the couple so they’d have a picture to send with their thank-you card, sized to fit the frame.

If you have some ideas for how you plan to personalize your favors for weddings, showers, birthday parties and other celebrations, please comment below!

Kathy Posted by Kathy on Jun 11, 2009.
Filed under Food and DrinkStuff We LoveWedding Registries and Gifts

20 Years Later

I am Mean Old Stepmommy to a wonderful daughter named Cindi. She will celebrate her 20th wedding anniversary this month and personally I am in awe of how two 19-year-old kids created a marriage that I truly admire.

Michael & Cindi, 20 years agoCindi really knew how to pick a husband because she has a gem of one. I love how they allow each other to be who they are and I like that they know they have someone on their side always. They are great cheerleaders for each other and honestly want the other to be happy.

Michael and Cindi remind me that some people really take their vows to heart. They don’t walk out when the going gets tough; they hang in there, constantly creating and recreating their life together. When I look at their marriage, I am reminded of the famous Robert Browning quote, “Come grow old with me, the best is yet to be.”

For all of you who are newly engaged, I hope you can envision a life with your beloved 20 years from now; that you see yourself as your partner’s number one cheerleader and best friend.

Create a marriage that your parents will truly admire, like I do with Cindi and Michael. Happy Anniversary, Kiddos!

Kathy Posted by Kathy on May 22, 2009.
Filed under Expert AdviceSex Romance Relationships

Suzie and Bob

As a former wedding coordinator, when I’m asked about the greatest wedding I’ve ever witnessed, I talk about Suzie and Bob.

Suzie and Bob’s wedding day just happened to coincide with one of the worst floods in Orange, California’s history. Only 30 of their 130 guests could even get to the church, and closed roads meant the caterer, photographer, and DJ were stranded as well. Nevertheless, the bride and groom decided to go on with the ceremony.

Savadelis FilmsSuzie’s limo arrived two hours after it was expected—a miracle in itself, considering where she began her journey! As I helped Suzie exit the car, a bicyclist rode by and sprayed mud all over her wedding dress. I started to lead her to the bathroom so she could freshen up, but Suzie just took my hands and smiled. “I’ve waited three years to marry this man,” she said. “I’m not waiting a minute longer.”

Bold as brass, Suzie walked up to the double doors and yelled, “Dad, come and get me.”
The guests all relaxed when they heard her voice and the bridesmaids, groomsmen, minister and groom quickly took their positions. Escorted by her father, Suzie proceeded silently towards the altar, muddy dress and all. When she arrived at the first pew with guests, the bride beamed and sincerely thanked her guests for coming.

Stephanie Brockman PhotographyThe most heartwarming moment came when Suzie got the first glimpse of her soon-to-be-husband. She turned to her guests and proclaimed, “I am the luckiest woman in the whole wide world!”

Suzie just got it. She knew that a wedding isn’t about the right dress or photographer; it’s about friends and family celebrating the joining of two people who were meant to be together. Bring this bit of wisdom to your wedding day, and you will truly have an unforgettable event.

P.S. Now, many years later, Suzie and Bob have three kids. When they talk about their wedding, they describe it as the most beautiful day of their lives.

Kathy Posted by Kathy on May 07, 2009.
Filed under Expert AdviceReal WeddingsSex Romance Relationships