Whose last name will you have after you get married? The bride can keep her last name, take the husband’s surname, hyphenate, come up with an entirely new name…but what about the husband taking the wife’s name? California men, you are now in luck. Michel Bijon, né Buday, has gone to bat for you.
When he and his wife Diana filled in their marriage license, they decided both would use her surname, but the form didn’t have a place for that. Michael didn’t think it was fair that he’d have to go through court appearances and mounds of paperwork for something that is much more routine for brides, so he ended up filing a lawsuit, which resulted in a new law making it simpler for each member of a couple to choose whatever last name they prefer.
Worried about inviting children to your wedding? My husband and I welcomed children and babies at our wedding. We even asked the religious school kids who had class at the same time as our wedding to join us (in the back of the sanctuary) for the ceremony. None of the single-digit crowd caused any sort of distraction.
Our thinking was that the reason we had a wedding with guests (and didn’t just elope) was that our family and friends (including the little ones) were an important ingredient in our celebration.
As a parent now, though, I must say that I am looking forward to attending a wedding next week that will have a babysitter. We’re traveling across the country to attend—and without a babysitter at the wedding we would have to either find our own babysitter (not a simple or likely task from out of state!) or we would end up taking turns outside with our pre-schoolers burning off a little of their energy, thus missing out on the wedding.
I loved the sweet story on Miho Walsh and Roy Prieb in a recent New York Times Vows column. They met over dim sum with friends and eventually turned their long-distance courtship into marriage. Besides the fact that they somehow pulled off celebrations in Tokyo, Bangkok and New York, what completely charmed me was the words engraved on Mr. Prieb’s wedding band: “You win some, you dim sum.”
Not your boring old wedding date inscription!