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It’s housekeeping time at Here Comes The Guide! We’ve reorganized our website a bit. If you’ve been reading our blog (thank you!), you’ll now find all our newest stuff over in Find Ideas, our online guidebook of wedding ideas, how-to’s, advice and lists of questions to ask prospective locations and vendors.

Wedding Invitation Ideas: RSVP Online

When my husband and I got married, tracking all the RSVP cards was a bit of a job—and we didn’t have a large invitation list. 

Recently a bride tipped us off that she used an online RSVP form from Wufoo. Here’s what she said:

With Wufoo, you can generate reports and never again have to compile individual emails.  I used Wufoo on my wedding RSVP and it worked perfectly.  No RSVP cards.  I simply downloaded all the RSVPs (including dinner choices) the day before my event.

(By the way, using this system did not mean she flouted tradition altogether. She had glorious peacock-themed paper invitations from Hello!Lucky.)

Antoinette Peacock Wedding Invitations by Hello!Lucky

We already knew how great and easy Wufoo is because we use it ourselves to survey our readers on our website. I knew immediately that Wufoo would make it super-easy for any couple to customize an RSVP page so it would reflect their style. 

Wufoo online wedding RSVP example

You can even include a Google map to your reception. Nice. 

Wedding Reception Idea: Dance Your Socks Off

Here’s a little trick you can learn from the kids these days.

A couple of years ago I was at a bat mitzvah and I noticed all the girls had kicked off their new strappy heels when it came time for dancing. No surprise! But what caught my eye was that they were all wearing the same little white socks—like they had planned it in advance. “Oh, no,” my niece told me. “There’s a basket of them over by the DJ so everyone can have a pair.”


customized socks for weddings and special eventsApparently it’s not uncommon at bar and bat mitzvahs—and it must be happening more and more at weddings, because you can even get customized grippy socks! That’s a wedding favor I’d appreciate.

Now, about the male guests….

Casual Wedding Food

A backyard celebration was a big part of our wedding. My husband’s aunt and uncle very generously helped us throw a second wedding party in their New Jersey backyard for our East Coast relatives and friends—we wound up with more guests there than at our San Francisco wedding. Dress and food were casual, kids ran around, many of us were barefoot—and everyone had a great time. 

If your personality is more backyard than ballroom, you’re in good company this year. The New York Times says that casual food and a relaxed setting are the latest trend among couples who either don’t have the money for a fancier wedding—or just don’t want to look inappropriately lavish in this economy. Whatever the reason, an at-home, casual wedding is always appropriate, IMHO.

Casual Wedding Inspiration from Design SpongeI’ve been inspired by some of the super-sweet backyard DIY weddings I’ve seen on blogs like Style Me Pretty and Design Sponge and by the real weddings I’ve been to. I remember one couple who used bowls of apples instead of flowers as their centerpieces—homey, simple and struck just the right note.

Most caterers can handle working out of your family’s kitchen or even using the garage as their makeshift kitchen. Most will take care of getting chairs and tables if you want to go that formal. Some even specialize in barbecues. Check out companies like Savory and Sweet or Thank Goodness It’s Sophia.

Hosting a backyard-style wedding is also a great opportunity to support state and local parks, like Franklin Canyon Park or Preservation Park.

How to Make Your Wedding Your Own

Those of us at Here Comes The Guide who are married did not have cookie-cutter weddings: Meredith and her husband had an intimate beach wedding (a.k.a elopement) in Half Moon Bay, Jolene wore a raspberry wedding gown; my husband and I served pizza—old-school, unfancy pizza; and Sharon and her husband had their lively reception in a dojo where the black belts in attendance took turns throwing the groom.

Dream A Little Dream EventsWe imagine you want a wedding that reflects you and your intended—that is, something uniquely yours. That’s why we work hard to bring you a variety of options. We think you are smart enough to make the choices that are right for you—but just in case you need a little bolstering in your quest to resist the pressure of friends, relatives and wedding magazines, read Ten Ways to Avoid The Wedding Industrial Complex by Kathleen J. King, published by our friends over at Divine Caroline.

Then just cover your ears…. “La, la, la, la, la. Not hearing you.”