When it comes to choosing dresses for your bridesmaids, one size definitely doesn’t fit all. Not only that, but not all styles are going to be universally approved. What to do? Vera Wang has a few suggestions… Read on!
Answer: It is customary for the bridal party to take the cue from the bride when it comes to wedding fashion. However, most brides these days are sensitive to the range of tastes, sizes, shapes and incomes of her attendants.
If you are finding it challenging to find a singular bridesmaid dress that suits your entire bridal party, then consider creating a common thread: Pick the color and let each attendant select a style in that color that most flatters her shape. You can also let each bridesmaid choose her own dress and create conformity through accessories, hairdo and make-up. That said, different bridesmaid dresses respect individuality but can also be distracting.
You are the bride, and while you should be as accommodating as possible to your bridal party, they should ultimately respect your overall vision for your wedding day including your choice of a bridesmaid dress.
—Excerpted with permission from Vera Wang’s RSVP Club newsletter. Want to read more of Vera Wang’s newletters? Click here to subscribe.
As maid of honor for my sister’s wedding last year, I wore a strapless dress.
Now I don’t know about you, but I’m no Heidi Klum. I’ll probably never be asked to model bras for Victoria’s Secret if you know what I mean, so I needed to make sure that strapless gown stayed put against all odds. I’d worn a strapless dress at weddings before, and I have to admit I spent half the night pulling my dress up.
I wasn’t interested in constantly monitoring my dress’ coordinates at my sister’s reception, so I made an appointment to have my dress altered 2 weeks before the wedding. When I got the dress back from the seamstress, I was thrilled. It fit like a glove! It passed every test: jumping up and down, dancing, sitting.
The day of the wedding, I put my dress on and, to my horror, it felt loose. I guess those last few spin classes did more than I wanted them to! Luckily, one of the bridesmaids had fashion tape in her bag. I’d never used it before, but all I could hear in my head was Tim Gunn saying, “make it work.” We lined the very top of the dress with a couple of pieces of tape and I crossed my fingers and hoped for the best.
I’m proud to say that fashion tape saved my life! My dress didn’t budge all night, and let me tell you I put it to the test and danced my butt off!
Here’s a list of items I’d recommend a bride and bridesmaids have handy in an emergency kit for the wedding day:
1. Fashion tape
2. Sewing kit
3. Extra jewelry and earring backs, in case anyone forgets their pieces or something breaks and you need a replacement.
4. Tide To Go pen, baby powder and white chalk to remove or hide any stains
5. Bobby pins
10. Super glue
11. Clear nail polish
12. Travel lotion
13. Travel hairspray
14. Sole inserts for high heels (your feet will thank me).
15. Nail file
16. Lipstick, lipgloss and Chapstick
17. Oil blotting sheets for your face: I love them because they take the shine away without loading another layer of makeup.
18. Travel deodorant
19. Static Guard
20. Small brush or comb
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When we wanted to go to a cool restaurant for our recent staff luncheon, we chose the brand new
Lake Chalet, at the edge of Lake Merritt in Oakland.
As an Oakland resident who walks around the lake frequently, I’d been watching this place being built over the last couple of years and was really curious to see how it would turn out. Well, the Chalet is gorgeous! It’s amazing how a building that started out in 1909 as a pumping station and boathouse could have been transformed into such a stunner. Lots of wood and windows plus high ceilings and a 70-foot marble bar overlooking the water create a warm, convivial ambiance.
We dined in the Lake Room upstairs, which extends over the lake and has views on three sides plus a fireplace and it’s own bar. This room, as well as the Gondola Room on the opposite side of the restaurant, is a charming space for a rehearsal dinner, reception or other kind of private party.
I definitely plan to come back to the Chalet for a stint at the main bar, where I can scarf down a pile of sweet potato fries with my beverage of choice and watch the sun set. Oh, and I can’t wait for summer, when the outdoor decks (there’s a bar conveniently located there, too) are sure to become the local hangout of choice. Hey, I might even take a ride on the genuine Venetian gondola that embarks on scenic tours of the lake from the Chalet’s dock. Who needs to go all the way to Venice?