Timing, choice of wedding stationery and, of course, guest list protocol are all critical steps in your wedding planning. The ever-savvy Vera Wang has some ideas for helping you get organized.
Answer: The wedding invitation is the first public reflection of your tastes as a couple and establishes the tone of your wedding day, from color to design elements. Your wedding dress may influence your choice of wedding stationery.
Your guest list should be almost final before you order your invitations, recognizing that last-minute adjustments are more likely than not. In preparing your guest list, segment close friends and family of the bride and the groom from those guests who you would like to share your special day with, but whose attendance is not as certain. This will help you keep count and tailor the guest list to your desired size. Also, take extra care of changes to your guests’ personal status, such as a divorce or separation, when addressing your invitations. Your thoughtfulness will be noted.
For those not invited to the event itself, it is considered polite to send a formal announcement the day after the ceremony in your selected wedding stationery suite. These announcements should be pre-stamped and pre-addressed with the return address of the bride’s parents.
—Excerpted with permission from Vera Wang’s RSVP Club newsletter. Want to read more of Vera Wang’s newletters? Click here to subscribe.
When my husband and I got married, tracking all the RSVP cards was a bit of a job—and we didn’t have a large invitation list.
With Wufoo, you can generate reports and never again have to compile individual emails. I used Wufoo on my wedding RSVP and it worked perfectly. No RSVP cards. I simply downloaded all the RSVPs (including dinner choices) the day before my event.
(By the way, using this system did not mean she flouted tradition altogether. She had glorious peacock-themed paper invitations from Hello!Lucky.)
We already knew how great and easy Wufoo is because we use it ourselves to survey our readers on our website. I knew immediately that Wufoo would make it super-easy for any couple to customize an RSVP page so it would reflect their style.
You can even include a Google map to your reception. Nice.
Here’s a little trick you can learn from the kids these days.
A couple of years ago I was at a bat mitzvah and I noticed all the girls had kicked off their new strappy heels when it came time for dancing. No surprise! But what caught my eye was that they were all wearing the same little white socks—like they had planned it in advance. “Oh, no” my niece told me. “There’s a basket of them over by the DJs so everyone can have a pair.”
Apparently it’s not uncommon at bar and bat mitzvahs—and it must be happening more and more at weddings, because you can even get customized grippy socks! That’s a wedding favor I’d appreciate.
Now, about the male guests….