I recently attended a wedding that included a tradition I’d never seen before: a love note ceremony.
Before their wedding, the bride and groom both write a good old-fashioned love letter to each other, expressing in detail how they feel about their relationship. They’re not allowed to see the other’s letters or show them to anyone else. The letters are then sealed and given to the officiant at the ceremony, who locks them in a box with a bottle of good wine, creating a time capsule and emergency wedding kit in one. If the bride and groom ever feel that the marriage is in jeopardy, they’ll open the box, drink the wine, and read the letters together. This particular couple has agreed to open the box on their 25th wedding anniversary if they never feel a need to open it sooner.
I loved the idea. Marriage is by no means easy, and sometimes we’re so focused on romance we occasionally forget that very important fact. But wow: I didn’t realize how controversial the love note ceremony was until we got to the reception! Some agreed it was a sweet idea, but others felt it was too depressing to be included at a wedding. I think one guest said it best: “Why make everyone wonder if this marriage is going to last before the celebration’s even over?”
Wedding guests on both sides of the issue raised some valid points, and I’d like to keep the discussion going. What do you think about the love note ceremony?
In this tough economy, what’s made me smile is how many families have worked together to design their own wedding details: floral arrangements, wedding favors, invitations. Not only do they save money by doing the work themselves, but they also come away with a closer family as they spend a few evenings together baking cookies for personalized wedding favors or designing their own flower arrangements.
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Sure, I’ve shot pool with Keanu Reeves and pulled a prop gun on Clint Eastwood… but it’s not the movie stars that impress me: It’s the wedding hot-shots! I must have gushed like a teenager the first time I talked to chic bridal accessory designer Erin Cole, and if I ever get a sit-down with Ms. Vera Wang, I’m sure I’ll absolutely plotz!
So I confess to major butterflies for my interview with celebrity wedding planner and TV show host, David Tutera at the elegant Langham Huntington Hotel in Pasadena last month. I needn’t have worried. He was warm and charming, and very open to sharing his wedding planning pointers. Later when I dished the dirt with two of his “My Fair Wedding” Season 2 brides, Dee and Quiana, they both agreed that he was way more personable and down-to-earth than they had expected. I was particularly excited to confirm that David and I were in complete agreement about several key “Wedding Dos & Don’ts.”
Want to know what they are? You can watch the full video interview here and read the tips by topic. And don’t forget to tune in to Season 2 of David’s Emmy-winning “My Fair Wedding” on WE TV.