I’ve noticed very few videographers at the weddings I’ve attended in the past year. In these uncertain times, I’m sure every couple wants to save a little money, but I have to say this trend still surprises me.
Videographers capture so many special moments that a photographer just can’t get. Without a wedding film, you can’t hear the song you danced to for your first dance or the speech your maid of honor gave when she toasted you. A picture may be worth a thousand words, but I think those words are worth hearing too.
At my brother’s wedding, my grandfather gave the blessing at dinner, like he does for every family event. His blessing was so touching and funny that the entire reception hall erupted in laughter and even a few tears. During the first dance (“At Last” by Etta James), my brother’s new wife sang every word to him as he spun her around the dance floor. It was such a great moment because it really showed their connection. Thankfully, those special scenes were captured by their videographer, Video Madness, and can be replayed whenever they want.
I am in no way saying that you should hire a videographer instead of a wedding photographer. But I am saying that before you toss out the idea of having a wedding movie of your very own, take a close look at your wedding budget and think of what is most important to you now and in the future. Like your wedding photos, a wedding film appreciates in value as the years go by. The ability to revisit those moments again on your first, 5th, or even 50th wedding anniversary may be more valuable than you think.
P.S.: Jan Brenner and Jennifer Ahearn did an interesting article on how hiring wedding professionals might actually save you money by finding creative ways to get more bang for your buck. Before you finalize your wedding budget, this article is a must-read!
I shopped at Victoria’s Secret when I got married. Even in those olden days (13 years ago…or was it 14? Have to check my notes…), the trip to VS was part of the pre-wedding ritual. In real Victorian times, a woman’s trousseau was given to her by female relatives and included lots of white cotton underthings that covered her from neck to ankle.
When I shopped in the pre-millennium, the theme of Victoria’s Secret bridal collection was romance. There were several dreamy satin negligees to choose from, with appropriately frothy accessories (like the white plumed pen and satin guest book I purchased). For my wedding night costume, I selected a cream-colored ensemble that included a sheer lace-topped peignoir with a swirling mid-calf skirt. The matching robe had a shawl collar that, like the sleeves, was edged in dainty lace. Overall, I thought the effect was classy yet alluring. (Though my husband was indeed snoring off tequila shots by the time I changed into it, I’m happy to report the outfit did have a successful debut during our honeymoon.)
When the VS digital catalog hit my Inbox this morning, I was a tad surprised when I perused the 2008 Bridal Collection, called “Sexy Little Things.” The “babydolls” don’t even qualify to have the word “nightie” in their name anymore…and they’re little alright, as in barely long enough to cover a gal’s hoo hoo. Gone is the romance theme, replaced by, well, sex. It’s right there in the title! And VS is unabashed by this, pointedly calling their line of edible boudoir sauces “Booty Parlor.” I guess that’s supposed to be a play on “beauty parlor,” but it just sounds trashy to me. And while the “Sexy Little Bride” diamante hoodie makes an appropriate fashion statement at wedding fairs, and the VS blue-bow garter will help you complete your “something” bridal checklist, the pink satin pumps with black feathers just say “Cathouse.”
Let’s be honest here—If you need the enticement of a ruffle eye mask and a turquoise nipple-baring bra at the dawn of your marriage, then imagine where you’ll be, bedroom-wise, in say, 13 or 14 years! (Excuse me, I have to go place my online order for some Kissable Massage oil and a Booty Parlor seduction kit… Happy Anniversary, baby!)
Here’s one simple wedding truth: your guests will remember your wedding favors more than a lot of the other details you’ve agonized over—simply because they take the favors home with them! I still have the wedding favor from a wedding I attended almost 20 years ago: satin roses with wire stems tied in a heart. It’s found a cozy home in my office drawer, and it gives me a daily smile. Mine was a traditional Middle Eastern wedding, so I gave out the customary gauzy pouch of 5 almonds, symbolizing 5 wishes for our future together: health, happiness, wealth, fertility and longevity.
I love tradition, but there are so many innovative ideas out there that guests are certain to hang onto for years to come. The two hearts magnets in a little card-themed gift box at Magic Wand Weddings is totally adorable, and miniature bird nests with candy eggs from Beau-Coup Wedding Favors would definitely add whimsy to a spring or summer wedding. Another summer favorite-in-the-making are these personalized sunscreen bottles from Unveiled. I also like the customized mint tins from Beau-Coup. They would be perfect at a wine country wedding, to sweeten guests’ “wine breath” after the reception.
What are your favorite sources for wedding favors?