Filed under Expert Advice, Invitations, Vera Wang
I rarely go to weddings (maybe it’s because most of my social circle is either already married or never going to be), but a year ago a friend invited me to one.
As my friend’s date I wasn’t obligated to bring a gift, but I’d I’d been told the bride and groom liked to cook, so I got them a few of my favorite kitchen gadgets from Sur La Table as a wedding present. I put my present on a table with dozens of other gifts, and hoped that it wouldn’t get lost in the pile.
I was fairly certain that soon after the wedding I would receive a thank-you note for my modest-but-thoughtful-and-super-practical gift. Alas, the postman never brought one. Months passed, and I wondered…Did the couple not like my gift? Had it disappeared? Been regifted? Eventually I just forgot about it altogether.
Until yesterday, that is. I flipped through my mail and was surprised to see the long-awaited thank-you note. Oh it was beautiful, all right—handwritten, very personal. But I have to say I had mixed emotions: Sure, it was great to know that my gift had been received and, in fact, “loved.” But I couldn’t help feeling that I shouldn’t have had to wait an entire year to learn that my present hadn’t been disliked, lost or regifted after all.
Actually, Emily Post states that thank-you notes should be written within 3 months of the receipt of the gift.
Moral of the story: Honor your guests—don’t wait a year to send out your thank-you notes!
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Filed under Expert Advice, Sex Romance Relationships
Sure, sex and money are still at the top of the couples quarrel list (right behind the nightly squabble over the remote). But according to a recent British study cited by couples’ counselors Drs. Michelle and Patrick Gannon, husbands and wives also get hoppin’ mad over issues concerning housework. There’s no easier way to build up resentment than mindlessly tossing used socks to the floor.
My husband and I make up a typical “Odd Couple”—I like things neat and tidy, and he couldn’t care less. (It’s not uncommon for me to find a moldy coffee cup buried under his discarded note papers.) But we don’t fight about housework, because we took the time to sort out those murky boundaries before we wed: I would do it and he wouldn’t. Turns out my husband’s solution to his piggie-ness (“I’ll hire us a weekly maid, okay?”) was not only music to my orderly ears, but also right in line with the latest research: couples who hire professional help report being happier!
I imagine the good Drs. Gannon nodding at us in approval…In their acclaimed Marriage Prep 101 workshops, they recommend that couples brainstorm how they plan to take care of all the individual and shared responsibilities of running a home together. Quoth the docs: “The housework issue is very resolvable, especially if you consider fairness, play to your strengths and are sure to show appreciation for all that you both do!”
I’m ready for my foot massage, honey!
Filed under Green Weddings, Wedding Ideas
And now I know why! IdealBite.com does daily posts of green tips, articles, and even biographies of green pioneers for five regions in the U.S., including Los Angeles and San Francisco. It’s an easy way to make sure you’re in the know on how to help save our planet. You were thinking of having your wedding on this planet, right?